Outcomes

What do you want from your divorce?

If you are considering separation or divorce, you need to think about what you want.

You might be questioning yourself, have I made the right decision, Do I want them back? Ask yourself do I miss them or the relationship? A good question to ask yourself is can I imagine myself with this person in 5 years’ time?  If you are having difficulty in coming to a decision it might be a good idea to book a few sessions with a counsellor or psychologist to help you explore your feelings.

Once you have made up your mind to separate you need to think about how your divorce will be, how do you want to behave, what do I want to achieve from this process. Most people will say I want to divorce with dignity, for my divorce to be as peaceful as possible, to be amicable with my ex, to stay out of Court, to not spend all my money on the process.

You also need to think about the outcomes you want to achieve. A good way to do this is to focus on the big picture.  Think about what is most important to you.  Think of your future not your past.  Outcomes you might want to achieve is to have a home for yourself and the children, for the children to be happy and in a stable environment, money in the bank.

It is important to know what you want before you start the process.